September11 From United States of America, joined May 2004, 3623 posts, RR: 23 Posted (10 months 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2888 times:
•••• Do You Have Children? ••••
Do I have children?
In fact, I have zero children. I very seldom can't believe that is a fact. Today, I see many children and realized there are great children who will be our future.. I think that, with good planning and serious responsibility, producing and raising children is fun and rewarding life-long experience.
Ps76 From , joined Dec 1969, posts, RR: Reply 1, posted (10 months 4 days 9 hours ago) and read 2871 times:
Hi!
I also have no children. I am 35 though so there is time. However I'm quite a recluse and don't really mix with people much except my parents and my aunt who I live with. I have no job or income either so I have no idea how I would support a family even if I found a woman who wanted to be with me. Plus I'm not assertive at all and would never be able to discipline my children if I had them so they would probably turn out to be in a real mess.
I do have a nephew and a niece though which is cool.
Quoting Jetsgo (Reply 2): First one is on the way... in fact only nine more weeks to go...
Congrats!
Say hello to a beautiful newborn baby!
Say goodbye to sleep....
I'd love to have kids some day. It's just the wife part that is traumatizing.
Sleeping with the exact same women for the rest of my life is horrifying and I don't want my future kids to have a broken home.
Decisions, decisions.
A318 From Bahamas, joined Jan 2008, 226 posts, RR: 0 Reply 5, posted (10 months 4 days 8 hours ago) and read 2823 times:
No children for me.
I recently gave up a great career and decided it would be fun to work as an au pair in Spain (call me spontaneous and impulsive). For three little runts. They've helped to confirm that I never want children of my own!
planejamie From United Kingdom, joined Sep 2011, 572 posts, RR: 0 Reply 7, posted (10 months 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2795 times:
I don't yet (don't plan to for at least 10 years given I'm only 17 now), but I go through phases where I think "having a couple of kids, a dog, a volvo and a 4 bedroom house somewhere in the suburbs" would be quite nice, but then there are other times I think "I can't stand children, they're a pain" etc etc and get put off. I think the issue is I'm not a fan of most of other people's children, but there are a few that make you think "they're going to be something good in the future" which puts me back on with the idea.
Ozair From Australia, joined Jan 2005, 661 posts, RR: 1 Reply 8, posted (10 months 4 days 7 hours ago) and read 2782 times:
I have two girls and and the wife is pregnant with our last child! It is hard work but is also more rewarding than anything else I have ever done. Nothing else compares to walking in the door after a hard day at work and being greeting by them. They have such a love for life, adventure and fun.
Ken777 From United States of America, joined Mar 2004, 7453 posts, RR: 5 Reply 9, posted (10 months 4 days 5 hours ago) and read 2747 times:
Quoting Jetsgo (Reply 2):
First one is on the way...
Congrats!
Get all the sleep you can as things are about to change.
Quoting Superfly (Reply 4): Sleeping with the exact same women for the rest of my life is horrifying
The secret is waking up with the same woman for x number of decades.
I have been exceptionally fortunate wife wise. 43+ years and I want another 43.
I was also very lucky in that I was able to date a pretty awesome young lass in high school. Smarter than me and I made that the number one need in a wife - got that for sure!
So we got married 10 weeks before my last WestPac Deployment. Later had 2 kids (one of each) and now have 3 grandkids. 11 Year old granddaughter, 8 year old grandson and lastly a 6 month old granddaughter. The first two live in TUL and I'm taking them to Steak & Shake in about 10 minutes.
Kids are great, but grandkids are grander. I can spoil them and then give them back tot heir parents.
Mine are only four and two and already I feel besieged (if you could hear what is going on as a type this.....). The economist in me says another girl would mean we can use the same clothes etc we have already acquired (I do not even want to calculate the sunk costs) but I want it to be a boy!
SmithAir747 From Canada, joined Jan 2004, 1599 posts, RR: 33 Reply 13, posted (10 months 4 days ago) and read 2674 times:
I'm 37, single, not dating anyone (haven't even started looking), so I have no kids.
Since I have a serious genetic craniofacial condition (Treacher Collins syndrome) that can have life-threatening complications (ie, upper airway obstruction), I would not want to have kids and pass that on to them. It's autosomal dominant, and does get worse with each succeeding generation (no generation skipping).
However, being a part of the Children's Craniofacial Association (CCA) and having attended the CCA Cher's Annual Family Retreat since 1994, I have grown close to many of the children who (like me) have some form of a craniofacial disorder (and also their parents). Some of them are especially dear to my heart, as if they were indeed my children (or at least nieces and nephews), so they are my children at heart. So I don't need to have kids of my own, when I can be a role model or mentor to them (having grown up with craniofacial deformities myself). The CCA retreat is my annual "family reunion".
SmithAir747
I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made... (Psalm 139:14)
kiwiinoz From New Zealand, joined Oct 2005, 2029 posts, RR: 5 Reply 15, posted (10 months 3 days 22 hours ago) and read 2656 times:
I have a daughter who is 3 and I can't imagine life without her. Is family life occasionally restrictive, sure. But it is definitely worth it. I have a great job and lifestyle but the thing that brings me the most joy in life is hanging out with my girls, (wife and daughter)
However, I think people have t be wary of doing it too early. There are certain things in life that an adult needs to experience without the burden of family. Thankfully both myself and my wife got to do that and we felt very ready to move on to a different phase.
And to those who think they wouldn't "get on" with kids, it's not really an issue. A parenting relationship is much more complicated than "getting on" and the parenting instinct finds a way to make it work if the parent is motivated to do so.
You never know, there could be a little army of superfly's running around as we speak lol.
I don't have any children. I used to want kids but the past couple of years, I seem to be set in my own little way and wouldn't want it disrupting (I sound like an OAP now lol) Apart from that, I can't see me meeting anyone anytime soon to settle down with to have a family and a lot of people think I'm getting on a bit to have kids now (I'm 32)
I have a niece and nephew who I love to bits and love to play with them when I visit home (a weekend is long enough with kids for me)
dc9northwest From Romania, joined Feb 2007, 1735 posts, RR: 4 Reply 17, posted (10 months 3 days 14 hours ago) and read 2560 times:
Nah, and I don't really want any.
Quoting planejamie (Reply 7): I think "having a couple of kids, a dog, a volvo and a 4 bedroom house somewhere in the suburbs"
You just described my nightmare. Don't want kids, don't want a dog to walk outside in -20 degrees on weekends, I don't need a car and I definitely don't want to live in the suburbs, nor do I want my kids growing up there if I ever have any.
Larshjort From Denmark, joined Dec 2007, 1216 posts, RR: 0 Reply 18, posted (10 months 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 2530 times:
No
Quoting A318 (Reply 5):
I recently gave up a great career and decided it would be fun to work as an au pair in Spain (call me spontaneous and impulsive). For three little runts. They've helped to confirm that I never want children of my own!
Being with my 3 smaller cousins used to be the best prevention in existance. Now that the youngest is 10 years they are not that bad.
signol From United Kingdom, joined Oct 2007, 2948 posts, RR: 7 Reply 19, posted (10 months 3 days 10 hours ago) and read 2524 times:
Yes, I have a boy who turned 3 this spring, and a girl of 10 months. Both adorable, though the boy can be demanding sometimes, especially when the girl is getting all the attention!
Quoting Ozair (Reply 12): Speaking of that, anyone have a great home remedies for morning sickness? The current drugs work very well but are expensive.
My wife had terrible morning sickness for both children. Our doctor gave her some tablets to use only rarely, but it wasn't really enough. She was told that ginger can help, problem is that my wife hates the taste! So give your wife ginger ale, ginger biscuits, ginger in stirfries. and it may help - we obviously didn't use enough to make a difference.
Ozair From Australia, joined Jan 2005, 661 posts, RR: 1 Reply 21, posted (10 months 3 days 7 hours ago) and read 2492 times:
Quoting signol (Reply 19): She was told that ginger can help, problem is that my wife hates the taste! So give your wife ginger ale, ginger biscuits, ginger in stirfries. and it may help - we obviously didn't use enough to make a difference.
Thanks for the suggestion but she has done the ginger as well as B vitamins with no noticeable effect.
Superfly From Thailand, joined May 2000, 38504 posts, RR: 80 Reply 22, posted (10 months 3 days 7 hours ago) and read 2481 times:
Quoting sunshine79 (Reply 16): You never know, there could be a little army of superfly's running around as we speak lol.
Don't scare me!
I have nightmares about that from time to time.
Quoting sunshine79 (Reply 16): I don't have any children. I used to want kids but the past couple of years, I seem to be set in my own little way and wouldn't want it disrupting
You should have children. You have an adorable smile and the world needs more smiles like yours.
Quoting dc9northwest (Reply 17): Hey, well, at least the mother(s) didn't find you
ajd1992 From UK - England, joined Jul 2006, 2645 posts, RR: 6 Reply 23, posted (10 months 3 days 6 hours ago) and read 2458 times:
I don't have kids yet as me and my fiancee are 20 and 21 but we have talked about it at length (not for any other reason than she has poly cystic ovaries and may struggle to conceive if at all).
We would like them, obviously I would like my own flesh and blood first and foremost but we are not against the idea of adoption.
daviation From United States of America, joined Sep 2008, 432 posts, RR: 1 Reply 24, posted (10 months 3 days 1 hour ago) and read 2418 times:
I have two children.
My daughter is 17. When she was a baby and toddler, she was an absolute angel. Now she is rather awful as a teenager. I hope this era passes quickly!
My son is 16. As a baby and toddler, he was a holy terror. Really, it's amazing how much trouble one little child could get into. Now he is the nicest and kindest young man.
But I wouldn't ever trade my role as father. It has difficult moments, especially in the teenage years, but I can't think of anything more rewarding, even my good career.
25 runner13: Well I'm 28 in my career, with a newborn. Tonights the first night at home. He sleeps good, but have to get up every three hours for feeding, changin
26 kiwiinoz: I have met some, (very few) older people who have told me that they regretted having children. Their reasons are quite similar. Usually related to how
27 kiwirob: What happens if you have children with someone without TC, is it 50/50?
28 SmithAir747: Yes, since it's autosomal dominant, there is the 50/50 chance of passing it on, regardless of whether my partner has TCS. It only takes one bad copy
29 sunshine79: Haha, that made me chuckle Thank you, I do get complemented on my smile now and again. Another put off is my friend's daughter. No matter how much yo
30 ndebelebev: Lol Mal.. I am with you on this one.. I have 4 step kids.. All over the age of 20 and don't live with me and my partner so thats great.. We don't nee
31 sudden: I have 2 spoiled ones, 8 and 10 years old. And when I mean spoiled and mean spoiled! Had a rental car ones when my own car was at the garage, and the
32 flyingturtle: Still haven't found the right partner for that life-long enterprise. Given that partner, I'm very willing to have children... (But I had a near-miss w
33 fr8mech: I have 2: a soon to be 10 year old girl and a boy that just turned 6. Rewarding and frustrating. Every time I talk to my dad about the kids, he just c
34 mandala499: Just got my 1st kid just over a month ago... a boy. Was 5kgs 2 weeks ago... and almost 4.2 kgs when he was born... Had my sister in law teaching my wi
35 Ken777: Congrats! The funny thing I discovered after having our first born home for a week was that I could not remember what it was like not having a baby.
36 kiwirob: I watched a very interesting BBC program about a chap with TCS, Jono Lancaster, he has a partner (a hottie I might add) they want to have kids, you c
37 SmithAir747: Thanks for the link! Very interesting! I enjoy meeting other adults and kids with TCS (usually at the retreat I mentioned earlier). As I mentioned be
38 casinterest: Congrats to all the new fathers on the board. I have two kids. Completely different personalities, and I wouldn't change them fro the world. 4 years a
39 777: Just got my third one less than two months ago... First one: boy, 7,5 years old Second one: boy, 3,5 years old Third one: girl, 50 days old The bigges
40 ScarletHarlot: No kids for me, and I'm 40, so am getting to the point where it's very unlikely to happen even if I wanted it to. Never had maternal instinct for huma
41 EA CO AS: Don't knock 'em - cats are awesome too! Sadly, we lost our beloved cat Chloe on the day our son Dylan was born. Very bittersweet day for us.
42 SHAQ: Right now I'm not planning to have kids, LOL! I'm only 16, but I enjoy a lot the company of my nephew, who's only 1 year old. He's always laughing and
43 fr8mech: I'll throw this out there right now: good for you. If every woman who did not have the 'maternal instinct' refrained from having children because of
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